• Macho men are unhappier when a woman earns more
  • Men with traditional ideas feel romance is harmed by high-earning women
  • Overall, men with 'non-traditional' ideas are happier in relationships

By Rob Waugh

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For a traditional 'macho man', the idea that their partner earns more than them can corrode their relationship.

A study of men who held 'traditional' ideas about the relationship between men and women found that their relationships suffered if the woman earned more money.

Men who held less traditional ideas, though, seemed fine just to take the money.

Overall, men who held more 'progressive' attitudes were happier in their relationships, the researchers said.

A study of men who held 'traditional' ideas about the relationship between men and women found that their relationships suffered if the woman earned more money

In the money: A study of men who held 'traditional' ideas about the relationship between men and women found that their relationships suffered if the woman earned more money

As more and more couples both work, the situation where the woman earns as much as - or more - than the male is becoming increasingly common.

For men raised on the idea that the male should be the breadwinner, it can be intolerable.

'New men', though, tend to just accept this as part of life.

The authors say: ‘Our results demonstrate the importance of masculinity ideology in understanding how and why men with higher-earning partners will have low or high quality romantic relationships.

'The findings are relevant to men who are married as well as non-married men in a romantic relationship.’


The new study by Patrick Coughlin and Jay Wade from Fordham University in the US found that men who are not so traditional in their masculinity do not place as much importance on the difference in income and, as a result, appear to have better quality relationships with their female partner.

The work is published online in Springer's journal Sex Roles.

The breadwinner role for men is still the accepted norm in marriage, and allows for and supports the husband's power and authority in the family.

However, the reality is that marriages in which both the husband and wife work are becoming the rule rather than the exception.

It is increasingly possible for both partners to either earn equal amounts, or for the female to earn more than the male.

Coughlin and Wade were interested in the effects of this growing trend on the experience of marriage and the quality of romantic relationships in particular.


A total of 47 men, who were involved in a romantic relationship, and had a female partner who had a higher income, took part in the study.

Through an online survey, the researchers assessed their beliefs about masculinity, the quality of their relationships, and the importance of the disparity in income between them and their female partners.

They found, on the one hand, that the stronger a man's endorsement of traditional masculinity ideology, the more likely he was to report a low-quality romantic relationship, and the more he perceived the difference in incomes as important.

On the other hand, the more a man endorsed non-traditional masculinity ideology, the more likely he was to have a high-quality relationship with his female partner and not place too much importance on the income disparity.

 


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If a woman is earning more than her man most will not stick around for long such is the nature of he female phsyce.

Oh dear my husband and I must the exception to the rule. He earns 20 x my wage and is without question what I would term an Alpha Male. A Modern Male. His big fantasy is for me to out earn him so he can retire and become a house husband. In no way does the idea of his wife being the sole breadwinner make him feel threatened, emasculated - less of a man. Perhaps it's a generational thing?

Whenever this topic is discussed they fail to mention that it is still extremely rare to find a women earning significantly more than their partner. I'm not talking about 10-20k, I mean £100k +. These types of relationships just don't exist because women invariably still want to feel taken care of, even if they don't actually need more money, they still want to feel like they are being provided for. Men are not masculine purely because society dictates it, but because we have large amounts of testosterone and cannot have children. This makes our natural behaviour and attitudes so different to that of women.

My husband is traditional but he still likes taken my money because like him I am a wimp too

Men - will not tolerate feministst and vile professional women anymore. The metrosexual nonsense has been rejected.

If my wife brought home more money than me working I would throw a celebration party!! Too bad I am the sole bread winner and our future and success are solely on my shoulders. I don't know what is wrong with some men, but if my wife made it so I can get a new car and pay for a house it would probably benefit our relationship.

A study huh. Why do we need a study to tell us what is simple, plain common sense? How much did the tax payers folk out for this one? And what possible benefit does this study provide? Anyone? I guess it is a good thing the budget has plenty of money for these type things, right?

I WOULD LIKE TO RE-CATEGORISE the 'couples'! IT DOES NOT come down to one half of the partnership, it also depends on secure and well-brought up people, who don't see everything as rivalry. 'Macho' secure men, with a dignified non-bragging wife, would be happy, 'Wimps' are made wimps by the women in their life, mainly the mother. So then they choose a partner in the same role, and are secure when being told what to do.

any man in this day & age, who has a problem with his female partner earning more than him, is not secure in his own masculinity. sorry, but we live in enlightened times (or so i thought) & men AND women are not solely defined by their gender and/ or their jobs. who cares who earns more?! ps my mum earns loads more than my dad & it has NEVER affected their marriage so i guess my dad is either a" wimp" or simply secure in his role in life, im pretty sure its the latter lol

If men earn less then it is less to lose when the women eventually decides to move on to another relationship.

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